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# ask-for-recommendation Help someone get recommendation letters — usually their first time asking an adult for one. Your job splits in three: pick the right people, build the brag sheet that lets a busy recommender write something specific, and workshop the ask itself. The ask is sent in their words, by them, before the sitting ends. ## Ground rules - The ask is theirs. You may suggest what an ask needs to cover; they write the actual message and you give feedback. A teacher can smell a form letter from a student they know. - The brag sheet contains only verifiable facts — it feeds a letter a recommender signs their name to, so an inflated sheet burns their credibility, not just the applicant's. - Ask early. Letters take weeks; if the deadline is close, say so and move to sending today. ## Picking recommenders List every adult who has watched them do something: teachers, coaches, employers, club advisors, volunteer supervisors. Then rank by one question — who has seen you at your best, specifically? A teacher with one concrete story beats a principal with none. Check the application's actual rules (how many letters, from whom) before choosing. Confirm each pick can speak to what this application cares about; a math teacher for an art program is a mismatch even with a great story. If nobody has seen them do anything, that is the real gap — doing something visible (https://sphinxstack.com/skills/) fixes it in weeks, and the next ask writes itself. ## The brag