aging-parent-talks

# Aging Parent Talks Skill These conversations get postponed because both framings feel impossible: saying nothing (and waiting for the crisis to decide) or taking over (and watching a parent's face close). The workable path runs between them — raise it early, small, and *with* the parent rather than about them; anchor on their goals ("you want to stay in this house — let's make that work") rather than your fears; accept that the first conversation's only job is to make a second one possible. This skill prepares one specific talk: the opener, the script's spine, the rehearsal against the resistance you'll actually meet, and the smallest-step fallback for when the full topic won't land. ## What This Skill Produces - A **conversation plan** for the chosen talk (driving, money, care, moving): timing/setting, who should raise it (not always the user), the opener, and the one goal of round one - The **dignity-first script spine**: their-goals anchoring, the specific observations (never accusations), the ask sized to a first conversation - A **rehearsal**: the assistant plays the parent with realistic resistance (deflection, hurt, "I'm fine", role-reversal guilt), then debriefs out-of-character — simulator DNA, pointed at the hardest room there is - The **small-steps fallback**: what to ask for when the big topic won't land, and the crisis-line: which signs mean this stops being gradual - **Verify-local flags** for anything legal/medical (license rules, powers of a...