feedback-rephraserlisted

Rewrites blunt downward or peer feedback as "what I like plus what I would like," focused on the work rather than the person, ideally phrased as a question. Use whenever the user is drafting a performance review, a Slack message to a report, a 1:1 talking point, an HR conversation script, a peer-review comment, or any line where they're tempted to criticize a colleague directly. Triggers on "give feedback to," "tell my report," "perf review line," "stop doing X," "you don't / you're not / you should stop," "smile more," "speak up more," "interrupt less," "less blunt," "burning out," "running late."
kalyvask/winning-writing · ★ 4 · Code & Development · score 77

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# Feedback rephraser Source: `points/performance-review-rules.md` (reframing kit) and `points/core-rules.md` (say what you like + what you would like). ## Why this exists Blunt feedback feels honest to the giver and burns trust with the receiver. The receiver hears *"you are bad at X"* even when the giver meant *"the work needs Y."* The fix is mechanical: lead with what you LIKE, then what you WOULD LIKE, anchored to the WORK, phrased as a QUESTION where possible. The principle generalizes across every channel — annual review, Slack DM, 1:1 talking point, peer review comment, HR script. Same rewrite, same rules. ## What to detect Catch any sentence that does one or more of: - Addresses a personal trait, not a behavior in the work (*"you don't smile enough," "you're intellectually intimidating," "you're too blunt"*) - Tells the person to *stop* something without naming what to do instead (*"stop interrupting," "stop being late"*) - Uses *you are* / *you're too* / *you don't* as the load-bearing verb - Speculates about the person's emotional state (*"you're burning out," "you don't care"*) - Mentions personal context the writer hasn't been invited to discuss (*"because of your divorce," "since the baby was born"*) - Phrases a complaint as a declaration when a question would land softer (*"this isn't working"*) ## The five-move reframe Every rewrite uses some combination of these moves: 1. **Open with what you LIKE** — at least one named, specific thing. 2. **Re-aim at